I’ll tell you something for nothing, and it doesn’t matter who you are, where you’re from or what you’re doing, but this rule is always the same.
If you place excessive emphasis on any one element in your life, you do so to the detriment of your health, your mental well-being, and who you are.
For some reason this is a lesson I must learn, and re-learn time and time again.
I don’t know. (So what’s the point of this article then?)
Well I do know – unfortunately the solution is tied-up in the problem.
The Solution to Work-Life-Love-Health Balance?
Friends (and/or family).
Not just any friends – you need people who will tell you how it is regardless of how much it’s going to hurt.
I was reminded, quite emphatically, this last weekend of what I’m doing wrong.
The problem isn’t that I don’t know what I’m doing wrong – I know what I’m doing wrong.
We nearly always do when we do.
But I just needed to hear it.
It needs to come from somewhere outside of me and from someone I trust – someone that doesn’t have alternative agenda.
As you’ve heard a million times, I’m introverted by nature (no, I’m not shy) which means I have a greater tendancy to think things through internally.
Over and over…
This is fine. I’m happy with this arrangement. The problem comes when it involves strong emotions or I’m heavily imbalanced in my life (too much focus on work at the moment), eventually logic is pushed out the nearest exit.
I turn inwards more and more and this means I’ll shut out practically everyone who doesn’t bang the door down.
This approach helps you lose friends, or at least guarantees your relationships will shift so far that getting the kick in the arse you need is more difficult.
You cannot walk alone
I need truth-sayers around me to keep me sane; to help me gain the perspective I need when life get turned on its head.
And perhaps you do too.
If you’re in a pickle and you know why – find your friends that you trust and get out of them the logic and sense that you know you need to be told.
You wont like it, and you’ll probably feel the need to defend yourself.
But that’s okay… it’s a start. When you find yourself strongly defending your position, it’s often a good sign you’re in the wrong position.
Now, go ye forth and multiply.