As the title suggests, when it comes to your emotions, you can’t pick and choose.

It’s simple, but most of us are living like we’ve found the secret to happiness – ignoring all the negative feelings we have.

I’ve been taking a lot of time out in the last weeks to really dig in to where I am and how I got here.

A single article wont be enough to explain it all, but I have to start somewhere.

So I’m going to start with grief.

The simple fact is that I haven’t even begun to properly embrace the grief I’ve experienced from the recent passing of my dad and one of my childhood friends. The effects have been widespread but are most clearly seen in the joy I feel, or rather the lack of it.

It’s hard to put this into words that make sense, but hopefully by trying to do so, anyone else who feels similarly may be able to relate and perhaps in-part, start to release the strangle hold that they have on their own hearts.

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Just One Thing

by Paul Goodchild on December 27, 2014

It’s easy to start thinking of all the new, wonderful things you’ll do with your life when X happens.

X can be anything. It can be the 1st of January.  It can be when you get that new job.  It can be when a relationship breaks up and you’re released back into the wild again.

Wishing for shit is a trick we play on ourselves. It’s the wool we pull over our eyes to hide us from the truth – if we’d really, really and truly wanted what we planned for to happen, we’d have made it there a long time ago.

There’s a reason you haven’t taken steps towards it already, and why you never seem to “find the time” to get it done.

You don’t want it.

Don’t get me wrong, you think you want it. You probably even know you want it.

But you don’t want it; not enough; not really.

Ever noticed how quickly you find water when you need it? There is no stopping you.

That pair of shoes you loved in the shop – you got them, didn’t you?

What about that job, or the promotion? You worked your ass off and you got that too.

Have you noticed when a need goes deep and it’s all you can think of, when you’re focused on it and nothing else, you usually get it?  It’s the same for most of us.

It’s the foundation of the much misunderstand “Secret” – the law of attraction.  It’s not some magical force where the Universe hears your petty needs and answers because this time you reeeeeaally want it.  It’s simply because when we want something, when that desire is strong enough to weave its way into our lives and our hearts, we move towards it with all our energy.

And if there’s anything that can be said about you… when you get down and focus on achieving something, you get it done.  Right?

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Remember To Look Back And See How Far You’ve Come

August 24, 2014

Aren’t we often reminded to look forward and not to dwell on the past? After-all, the past can’t be changed and we should be moving forward into our future with high hopes and expectations. That’s where our future is! This thinking is flawed. It’s not where you look that counts, it’s how you look at […]

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Being born in a garage doesn’t make you a car

August 10, 2014

My dad gave me a foundational piece of wisdom about 20 years ago, and I caught myself remembering it this morning on my way to practice my roller-blades skillz (more on that later). I laugh at it now because it sounds a bit silly, but he taught me a valuable lesson when I was still very […]

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Expectations – both the Source of Great Joy and Deep Sadness

August 4, 2014

Ever wondered why you feel the way you do? Why did something that happened yesterday upset you so much? After looking back on past event within the greater context of our lives, we often realise it wasn’t such a big deal anyway. But why do we get so upset at the time? What causes us […]

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Can you still retain emotional balance while falling in love?

June 27, 2014

Let’s be fair, we all know that to “find happiness/contentment/balance”, we must look within ourselves. You know that already, right? Well I’m going to assume that you do… and if you don’t, give this a read from Leo. My question is, based off my experience in the last 6 months, and after reading this random […]

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If you can’t figure out why, ask yourself “why not?”

June 23, 2014

Ever stop to ask why you’re doing what you’re doing? Of course you have. But, do you always answer it though? The only way we grow, get better, be happier, and feel like we’re actually making progress, is to question what we’re doing and most of all, WHY we’re doing it. Then adapt accordingly. Often we deliberately ignore […]

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3 Approaches To Life From The Greatest Man That Ever Lived :)

May 21, 2014

Today is my dad’s birthday. Unfortunately he’s not here in person to celebrate it… but I am. It’s hard to know where to start to write about him even after nearly 2 years, and so I haven’t until now… but I want to start somewhere. So I’ve picked 3 things that I can directly attribute […]

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Relationships: 4 Lessons Learned To Bring To The Next One

April 29, 2014

I’ve recently just come out the end of a relationship that I thought was pure beezer. It had all the right ingredients… possibly the best that I’ve experienced to-date, though it was unfortunately short lived, and teetered out after a few months. Now it’s time to work out where it all went wrong…

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Your balls won’t always bounce back

April 1, 2014

Here’s a little metaphor to help us find that sweet-spot balance in life. It’s basically this: In life you’re juggling 5 balls: Work Health Family Friends Spirit As any one that’s tried juggling knows, we sometimes drop the ball. Which one we drop in this case is important. All the balls in that group of […]

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